How do you manage your professional and personal lives?
I have help. I have a woman named Kim who has been with our family for 10 years who works four days a week. She helps with the laundry, cooking and child care. My son helps with the horses and animals. My niece is my personal assistant, which means she helps me get the kids to the dentist and the doctor and their appointments. You don’t think about it—you just do it. I couldn’t do it alone, that’s for sure.
You give out love advice on a daily basis but have been divorced three times. How do you square that with your listeners?
I think one of the main reasons I can give people advice is it comes from a place of authenticity. I repeated the same pattern that my mother repeated, and that my grandmother repeated. I fell in love with my first husband, a man who was an alcoholic. It was the way I was raised; it was what I knew. It took me a lot of work to break that cycle, and, thinking I broke the cycle, I rushed into another relationship with somebody. Though he was not an alcoholic, he was raised by an alcoholic and had a lot of the same characteristics and behaviors.
I can certainly tell people what to look out for, and the heavy work and hard work that need to be done before you commit yourself. If you have been brought up in dysfunction or brokenness, chances are you are going to repeat that pattern if you don’t get help.
What’s one takeaway our readers should get from you?
God tells us true religion—pure religion—is to care for orphans and widows and their afflictions. I don’t understand why, in a country where over 80% claim to believe in God, we have 457,000 kids in foster care. Why aren’t we caring for the orphans and the widows like he tells us to?